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… thoughts from a Kiwi cricket fan

Friends to the End

I got a really, really special surprise from one of my friends last week – she sent me the new Boyzone album in the post, along with an inspirational friendship book.  I have been really enjoying reading through some of the thoughts about what makes good friends and friendships, and came across this that I wanted to share with you:

What we look for and value in our friends are the very same qualities we are most proud of or wish were more evident in ourselves.

That got me thinking about those that I consider to be my friends, and also the kind of friend I am to others … for instance, one of the qualities I most appreciate in others is loyalty, and I guess that’s why I try to be loyal and dependable to my friends and family too!

So what do you value or look for in others?

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It’s been one of those weeks!

Somehow, no matter what I said or did in this last week, I just ended up feeling crappy about my life and myself, and the lives of my friends and family around me; I hate it when we have those weeks when everything just seems to be against us and we can’t do anything right!

Fortunately, I received a wonderful St Patrick’s Day card and gift from a friend, including the new Boyzone album titled “Brother.”  So I put that on and was playing it to myself, and then proceeded to break down in tears as I listened to the lyrics of the song “Right Here Waiting:”

Let it go
Don’t be scared to breathe again
It’s alright
Close your eyes
And together we can feel what it’s like
To live again
Embrace this world and hold on tight
Until the end

You don’t have to do this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here standing by you
You don’t have to do this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here
Always for you, you [2x]

Here we go
From this moment we are born to be one
In your eyes I can see the stars
They shine on and on
So let’s be strong
And let’s be brave
Take my hand and lead the way

You don’t have to do this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here standing by you
You don’t have to do this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here
Always for you, you [2x]
Always for you

Together
We’ll be together
Always
Always be together
And we’ll be together
Always [2x]

You don’t have to this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here standing by you
You don’t have to do this alone
Cause I’m right here
I’m right here standing by you
I’m standing by you.

Just wanted to leave that with you today!  🙂

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Don’t think, write!

I was watching “Finding Forrester” again on DVD last night and this line from the movie jumped out at me!

For those of you who have never seen this movie, it stars Sean Connery, Anna Paquin and Rob Brown (and Matt Damon makes a cameo!)  It’s the story of Jamel, a talented 16 year old basketball player in New York City whose secret passion is writing.  William Forrester is a reclusive Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist who never gave the world a second novel.  After an accidental meeting, Forrester becomes Jamal’s unlikely mentor, providing guidance to help develop the young man’s exceptional skills.  Soon, Forrester’s harsh view of the world begins to change as both men learn lessons from each other about life – and the importance of friendship.

Anyway, I guess the reason I like the movie is cause it’s about writing, and I’ve been struggling to find the inspiration to continue with my own creative writing latterly.  At one point in the movie, William Forrester sits Jamal down at a typewriter and Jamal says something about needing to think about what he’s going to write.  Forrester says to him, “The first rule of writing: don’t think, just write!”  That really impacted on me – I think too many times I’m thinking, okay so what do I need to write today, when I should be just sitting down and writing!  That’s part of the enjoyment of it anyway, isn’t it, and we do it because we enjoy it, surely!

I need to go and write … not think 😉

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Talk about inspirational!

http://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/winter-olympics/3455572/Kiwi-Paralympian-wordless-after-crashing-to-gold-medal-win#share

New Zealander Adam Hall won the gold medal today in the standup slalom at the 2010 Paralympic Winter Games!

How awesome is this, to see a guy who was born with spina bifida but has skied since the age of six years old, achieve such a fantastic goal.  Even after crashing halfway down the course, he didn’t give up and got back on his ski to continue and complete the course, to see if he was still in with a shot at the top!

Sometimes I think we “able bodied” people, not even able bodied athletes, have a lot to learn from people who are seen to be disabled.  In fact, it’s probably WE who are the disabled ones, as we seem to take it all too much for granted and don’t have to “try hard” to get to where we want in life.

Worth thinking about anyway, I think …

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“A man who has friends must himself be friendly …”

Something I read yesterday which I found helpful and interesting …

Do you have a hard time keeping friends?  There’s a reason!

People give up on us when they don’t feel valued.  George and Mary Lou were celebrating their fiftieth wedding anniversary.  A reporter asked George, “What’s your recipe for a long, happy marriage?”  George explained that after the wedding, his father-in-law handed him a package.  Inside it was a gold watch that George still used.  He showed it to the reporter. Across the face of the watch where he could see it a dozen times a day were written the words, ‘Say something nice to Mary Lou.’ We all need that watch!

In his book Blink, Malcolm Gladwell writes about a relationship expert who was able to predict the potential success of a couple’s marriage based on their interaction with one another. What was it he looked for that indicated a marriage was headed for trouble?  Contempt!  If one treated the other with contempt, the relationship was usually doomed to fail.  Now, insincereity and flattery don’t work.  For a person to feel valued, they must know you genuinely value them.  To feel respected, they must know you genuinely respect them.  When we devalue others, we start treating them like objects, not people.

So what is the solution?  Focus on their strengths, and eventually they’ll give you the right to help them in their areas of struggle.  Too many of us are good at finding the value in an opportunity or a deal. We need to develop the same mindset when it comes to building relationships.

I definitely learned something from this short text … and thank you to The Word for Today for enlightening me and sharing it with me.

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Hello world!

I don’t really know if this is going to work for me, as I’ve never tried something like this before, but with all the spare time I have at the moment, I thought I’d give it a go!

Hopefully I can share some thoughts that inspire or intrigue you …and feel free to comment on your own inspirations and aspirations as well!

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